Highlights of value

Poin-poin ini bisa jadi berguna bisa jadi tidak. Tapi semoga ada yang bisa diambil baiknya.

  1. Penggalan paragraf dari novel “Cantik itu Luka” oleh Eka Kurniawan

“Kenapa kita harus pulang?” Tanya Alamanda, “kita bisa hidup berbahagia di sini”

“Sebab aku tak bermaksud menculikmu seumur hidup”

Sambil mendayung, Kamerad Kliwon duduk di samping gadis itu, namun keduanya sama-sama membisu. Ada yang dipikirkan oleh keduanya, namun hanya berputar-putar di otak belaka, tak juga terkeluarkan selama perjalanan pulang tersebut. Hingga akhirnya ketika mereka berlabuh di pantai, Kamerad Kliwon mengejutkan gadis itu dengan ucapan yang lembut:

“Dengar, Nona,” kata laki-laki itu, “Aku menyukaimu, tapi jika kau tak menyukaiku, itu pun tak apa-apa.”

Ya Tuhan, inilah laki-laki yang selalu membuatku terkejut seolah-olah apa yang akan ia lakukan bahkan tak bisa diramalkan oleh kitab takdir sekalipun, pikir Alamanda dengan pandangan tak berdaya. Ia tak mengatakan apa pun meskipun hatinya ingin mengatakan bahwa ya aku pun mencintaimu.

  1. Nasehat soal cinta paling relate dari seorang Nasrani.

https://youtu.be/1WVss6qYhPg

  1. Toxic relationship

 Toxic relationship sering diartikan dengan hubungan yang abusive. Tapi rasanya ia lebih dalam dari itu. Barangkali kalau kamu mau cek tulisan Rivanlee yang satu ini, kamu akan paham;

“Kita nampak baik, namun membusuk dari dalam”

“Kita sama-sama saling mempercayai informasi yang membenarkan apa yang hendak kita percayai, cenderung menerima fakta yang hanya memperkuat penjelasan yang kita sukai, dan kerap menolak data yang menentang sesuatu yang sudah kita terima sebagai kebenaran.”

Lalu cara memulihkan diri dari Toxic relationship, menurut seorang psikolog,

https://youtu.be/71AXRuPrbGc

  1. Milikilah sebuah nilai dalam hidup. Seperti kata Mark Manson ;

“If you remove the moral horrors from Hitler, on paper, he’s one of the most successful self-made people in world history. He went from being a broke, failed artist, to commandeering an entire country and the most powerful military in the world in a matter of two decades. He mobilized and inspired millions. He was tireless and shrewd and intensely focused on his goals. He arguably influenced world history as much as anyone who has ever lived.

But all of that work went toward demented, destructive aims. And tens of millions of people died due to his misguided values.

Therefore, you cannot talk about self-improvement without also talking about values. It’s not enough to simply “grow” and become a “better person.” You must define what a better person is. You must decide in which direction you wish to grow. Because if you don’t, well, we might all be screwed.

A lot of people don’t realize this. A lot of people obsessively focus on being happy and feeling good all the time—not realizing that if their values suck, feeling good will hurt them more than help them. If your biggest value in the world is snorting Vicodin through a swirly straw, well, then feeling better is just going to make your life worse.”

We need values we can control, otherwise our values control us. And that’s no bueno.

Some examples of good, healthy values: honesty, building something new, vulnerability, standing up for oneself, standing up for others, self-respect, curiosity, charity, humility, creativity.

Some examples of bad, unhealthy values: dominating others through manipulation or violence, fucking more men/women, feeling good all the time, always being the center of attention, not being alone, being liked by everybody, being rich for the sake of being rich, sacrificing small animals to the pagan gods.”

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